Wednesday, 23 September 2015

What is love ?

I had an interesting yet disturbing experience a few days ago. It is something that happens so often, I am sure you guys would say "what is the big deal?"

A few days, someone professed love to me. I know right, what is the big deal about that ? It's a normal thing in a world that claims it loves.

But then if you sit to think, what really is love ? To see someone with features, characters or attributes you like, and after a while, after observing and noticing them, claim you love them and would like to be with them ?

Is that really what love is all about ? What your eyes like and decide you love ?

I beg to defer. Over the last few months, I think I can say God has taught me love to a large extent.  What love really is, and  what love really should be.

Love is a decision you take, to consciously and continuously stay in love with a person. That is irrespective of what they do, or don't do.

I'll take a note from our very best teacher, God. He made a conscious effort to show His love to the world, irrespective of the sins it was surrounded in. He stayed in love with us, and even made provisions for His son, to die for us, even before we agreed to accept that sacrifice and love Him back. Now that is what I call love.

I know sometimes, understanding God, His ways and acts and then being like Him might seem difficult, but really what else could love be.

1 cor 13: 4- 8, lists various attributes of love. What it is, what it isn't, what it should be, should do, and shouldn't do. Those sentences taken one at a time, and put into practice is a simple guide of/to love.

I am human, and like you I know practicing love the God way might be difficult. But it is what He created us to be, for the best of us. Love is us consciously and constantly making a daily decision to be and stay in love. I.e irrespective of fights, distractions or any other thing that comes in between.

Christ consciously and continuously decided to love the world. When it hated him, rejected him, and even in crucifixion. He knew the end, yet he constantly prayed for the world. Christ showed love, Christ was love.

This therefore means, that love which we first exhibit towards Christ, is the pathway to exhibiting love to others. We can do this by constantly choosing to be in love with God, His word, His decisions. I.e even when we are not getting what we want, or when the enemy brings distractions our way. Love is consciousness, not blindness.

This attitude of love, then reflects in our relationships with people. By us loving them, friends or spouses from the beginning, and preparing ourselves even before we find the love/ person to love. This is seen in the way God catered for us, even before we were born into a world of sin.

Love is a big thing, love is an amazing thing, and love takes understanding. This simply implies, love isn't confined to the worlds definition of : like a girl, tell her you love her, date her. Love is bigger. Love is preparing for the long term and for the best of all. Love like the bible says, is the greatest of all.

And just in case you don't know, don't believe it, or sometimes forget, God's love for you is mega. He loves you and I sooooo much. Don't miss out on God's love, simply embrace it, and bask in the glory of his love for you.


#note this piece doesn't capture all of what love is, its simply a tip of the iceberg.


  1. Nice piece, but your examples (of God & Jesus) were supernatural beings...point, as humans, translating the biblical love to our daily lives has its challenges...its about sacrifice, compromise, consistence (even in the face of rejection) & hard work (from both partners)... Yes I said both, because our believe is solely a guys duty....we will talk more in camera

  2. Cool piece dear! Sure, practising the God kinda love is difficult for we humans....but all things are possible right!

  3. 'Love is consciousness not blindness' did it for me. Love is one of the greatest forces in the world. Takes a whole lot of consciousness to live it to its peak.
    Awesome piece Toni. More grace

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  5. "Practising" the love of God for humans will always and definitely be difficult. But we are not humans, we are BORN OF GOD. John 1:12  But as many as received him, to them gave he power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on his name 13  Which were born, not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, but of God.

    Because I AM BORN of God I have the capacity to love fully just like God does.

    If God is love (1 John 4:8  He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.), then I AM also love; that is my true nature.

    Practically, I need to allow the Holy Spirit to first teach me what the full nature of love is. Then secondly, help me know how to "express" this nature constantly.

    My when mind gets to know how to express the nature of love in my spirit, my body will constantly act it out; in Jesus name.

  6. I just love this Toni. I am so proud of you. Keep up the good work. And please send me more know where to find me....

  7. Nice one you have on here. I have come to discover that the word "love" is one of the most misused word in English Language. Alof of times when I ask people (especially male folks) what they like or love about a particular person(probably the person they are dating), they say things like I like her stature, I like her smile, I like her looks, the way she walks, talks, etc. Yes I am not disputing the fact that appearance is the first point of attraction but my question is this, "What happens when the person's stature changes or doesn't talk, smile or walk as he or she used to? Does it mean the reason for the love is gone and therefore no love again? But love, God's kind of love always stand no matter what. That's the kind of love we are talking about, the Biblical love.